Resolutions for The New Year? FAIL

As we head into the last month of the calendar many of us begin to think about all the things we want to take on for the coming year.  Changes we want to make, goals we want to achieve, hopes for new beginnings, and possibly even hopes for new endings. As we count down on New Year’s Eve, 3…2…1… we feel motivated, excited, and an overwhelming sense of optimism fills us up. Wahoo!

What we may take on…

  • We may join the gym and take advantage of the amazing deal they are offering
  • We may write down our intentions and post them on the fridge
  • We may tell our friends and family what we are taking on.  Hey Mom! “I’m training for the marathon this year”
  • We will take our romantic relationship to the next level, start trying for kids, move in together, make it “Facebook Official”
  • We will do whatever it takes to get that promotion, go back to school, actually ask your boss for it, change organizations, etc…
  • Hell, this may even be the year we get back into painting or making music or some other joyful creative project we’ve seemed to let slip away.

THERE IS SO MUCH EXCITEMENT!

THERE IS SO MUCH POSSIBILITY!

THIS WILL FINALLY BE THE YEAR!

2019!

Ahem…Cough…Probably not.

I saw this on social media the other day and it summed it up nicely.

This is how it goes for most of us, most of the time.

You see, here’s the thing.  All that motivation and excitement you may be caught up in are “just” feelings.  Not to ever minimize our feelings but Yep, they are feelings.  What do we know about feelings?  Feelings do not last.  You’re not sad forever? You’re not happy forever? So, you won’t be motivated forever and you won’t be excited about this amazing 2019 you’re creating forever. Sorry to kind of be a buzzkill here but this is why so many people don’t actually fulfill on what they declare every time the clock strikes 12:01 on January 1st.

Here are 3 action steps to take on with your resolution planning

Structure– create a structure that will have you keep your eyes and heart on the prize.  Every day empower it and let it be your compass throughout the year.

Accountability-have someone or something hold you accountable.  Every day to move you towards your goals, because when the “I don’t really feel like its” pop up this will be crucial in still moving forward despite how you feel.

Get support– invest in yourself.  Seriously.  There are millions of professionals in the world to support you in achieving your goals.  We are all too quick to spend money on things we don’t really need but when it comes to investing in ourselves, we leave ourselves insufficiently supported. Financial planners, Therapists, Counselors, Match Makers, Personal Trainers, and Coaches are readily available to support you. I’m a coach.  Pick me!

I’d love to know what you are up to for 2019 and what structure, accountability, and support profession you will empower to actually get what you want this next year.

Bob